It can be stressful for parents when young siblings fight. I have a
three year old daughter, an almost five year old daughter and a three month old daughter. My three
year old and my four year old are really close. They do almost
everything together and they are best friends. They get along most of
the time, but sometimes they do fight.
Some of the fights
they have are minor, but they can get a little intense at times. When
one has something the other one wants, especially a toy, it can be
overwhelming. Even if my husband and I buy each of them the exact same
thing they still find something to fight about. Boy is that
frustrating!
So what do you do when your young siblings
fight? In my opinion, the best thing to do is separate them for a little
while to give them time to calm down. Sometimes when my three year old
is tired she gets impossible to deal with. She does not really nap
anymore, but when she starts to cry for no reason I know a nap is the
best thing. If they start to fight
over a toy or something, we usually take it away and redirect them to
another activity and let them know that they can't have it unless they
share. I notice they get along very well when they're playing on the
computer, so when they fight and don't know what to do with
themselves I let them play games together on the computer.
It's important for parents with young children to remember they
have to be role models. If parents have a conflict with each other they
should try and settle it calmly and be respectful of each other. If
children see their parents yelling and slamming doors they will think
that behaviour is acceptable.
I think quality family time is important. We do a lot of things
together as a family, especially on the weekend. We've gone to Canada's
Wonderland a lot this summer and last summer. We all have season
passes and it's great! When we can't find something to do we pack some
things, hop in the minivan and head to Wonderland. Sometimes we take
them to the movies and if we don't feel like going out we watch movies
together at home. Sometimes children fight for parents' attention so
doing things as a family often can help lessen the conflict.